The "Boy Crisis" is going to make "The Marriage Crisis" Even Worse for High Status Women
The Catastrophe of the Wisdom Required for Life-Long Marriage Affordance is Compounding
In today's video I talk about the cross between the "boy crisis" and likely the anticipated "husband crisis" for high status women in upcoming generations.
I had little inkling of a "marriage crisis" before I started my @jordanbpeterson meetup but very quickly the participants began to share their stories of the breakdown of "the generational handoff".
There are a number of elements that have contributed to this. 1. The Christian social pressure against co-habitation and pre-marital sex that I grew up with is gone not only from much of the church but from society as a whole is gone.
2. the widespread damage of children through the divorce of their parents is now two generations deep. If you watch "The Batchelor" shows the "marriage is for life" hunger is breathless but seems overly aspirational.
They sound like someone who wants to run a marathon but has never spent a day in their life training. What it takes to build a life-long marriage goes beyond good intentions. It takes wisdom, tradition and community.
The new regime in the pursuit of life-long marriage is an audition culture. First you audition a potential partners in bed. One young man told me that the women he sleeps with always seem to be performing more than connecting.
The next level of audition is the "move in together". This is an open-ended audition comparable to a temp job where you really don't know if it will lead to a permanent position.
One or both parties are saying "I like you enough to have sex and act married but I'm not sure I like you enough to keep you. If someone better comes along you might get kicked to the curb."
Is it any wonder we are building an anxious generation of young adults? The unreliability of their parents is now producing a pre-marriage ritual of unreliability in the hope that reliability will simply manifest itself.
In some circles this has fostered the "marry young vs marry late" debate. It's a good debate to have. Team "Marry Late" makes the good point that those years before 40 can afford a lot of wisdom which can afford better mate selection.
Given the overall rapid break-down of intergenerational wisdom transmission this makes some sense. A healthy culture affords wisdom to individuals who haven't had time to accumulate it in their own biological life.
I stumbled into the debate in a podcast I was interested in for other reasons, between @Yascha_Mounk and @ebruenig . https://pca.st/dgvc17hp She's an unusual example of economic progressivism and social conservatism.
I used this interview with @ChrisWillx as an example of the sex lives of very high-status males in the sexual marketplace.
I believe current the marriage crisis has a "luxury beliefs" dynamics. Follow @robkhenderson to learn about "luxury beliefs". People "privileged" with beauty and status will consume those further down the hierarchies yet even they will struggle with "till death do us part"
Combine this with the "boy crisis" outlined by the @WSJ https://www.wsj.com/articles/college-university-fall-higher-education-men-women-enrollment-admissions-back-to-school-11630948233 and we are going to have a VERY unhappy generation of successful women and less successful men over the next decades.
The "Boy Crisis" is going to make "The Marriage Crisis" Even Worse for High Status Women
Would be interesting to define what is ment by high status woman... Is this some sort of pop culture definition or are we categorizing by profession or income? Of course I've listened to Peterson talk about his lawyer women clients and all of their woes and troubles but I don't watch TV and haven't for two decades so that being said I guess I wouldn't know a high status woman from a waitress at a coffee shop. It's pretty obvious to me that people's definitions of others are almost entirely based on pop culture and mass media.
At the end of the day mating rituals are to a large extent biological. Women have advantages and disadvantages. Those assets change over time... Just like they do for men. I think it's a mistake to get too enamored by high status women.... This category is a product of feminisms assault on women who raise children and teach School...The overwhelming majority of women do not fall into this category of "high status"... Unless as I said above that I'm not understanding the definition...